Do you ever feel frustrated or angry about things in your life that you wish weren’t there, or wish were different? We all do from time to time, and I am no exception. When we feel this anger or frustration, we are in resistance to what is. The best way I have found to shift away from this feeling is through acceptance. Now, this doesn’t mean we have to like where we are, we just have to accept it and take responsibility.
A number of years ago, I was very unhappy with the house we lived in. I was definitely in resistance to this house! I would get an icky feeling coming home every night and knew that wasn’t doing anything for my quality of life. That’s when I realized I should do something to increase my acceptance of where I lived, if anything was going to change in my life. I decided to do anything I could within reason to feel even a little bit better about where I lived!
I got busy de-cluttering and doing some low-cost remodeling. I added a few minor accessories, bought a bright colored paint, and then got busy painting! I stood back and admired my new paint job and what it did to brighten up the room. I also looked at my house and thought of all the good qualities it did have, so I would be more grateful. I reminded myself that there are homeless people and I should be happy that I have a warm home to live in! I had accepted where I lived, since I was responsible for living there, and took action to do what I could do to make things feel even a little bit better.
It was only a couple of months later, my husband and I came up with a plan that allowed us to move to a neighborhood we liked much more, and into a home we both felt good about. I believe this happened because I began to accept where I lived, and stopped all my negative, heavy thoughts. It was only then, I was able to be open to a solution, because I had let go of thoughts that were distracting me.
Think about the things in your life that you wish weren’t there. Create ways to be in acceptance, and see what happens!
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